The other day, part of our Bible in a Year reading plan came from Ephesians 5:22, “Wives, yield to your husbands, as you do to the Lord…” Well, I’m not debating or writing a discourse to defend, declare or convince you of my understanding of this scripture. However, I did think it rather funny later during that same day, Roger and I were hanging out with our Rwandan friend Justin, a strong, manly man, but so tender and a complete marshmallow when it comes to his beautiful wife Anne. We were laughing and discussing the amazingly wonderful and sensitive discernment giftings of the wives that God had given both he and, of course, Roger, too!
Justin was saying that in a group or encounter with others Anne would be so agreeable and friendly, but then when they were alone, she would tell him with much emotion about the potential problems in this relationship or exactly what had just been going on in the encounter. Shaking his head, he was laughing as he was describing such a recent event, saying Anne told me, “You know, Mutware,…” Then he stopped and started laughing out loud and told us, “Anne calls me this, do you know this word and what it means?” No, we hadn’t heard that word before. “It means king or chief or boss and she calls me that sometimes out of respect and to say that’s how much she accepts my spiritual authority…” Still smiling and even laughing, he went on to tell us how she felt about the situation they had just passed through. Then he finalized the story with, “And you know she is most of the time always right anyway, so I may as well listen to her!!”
After several weeks and much consideration, I have rejected such an outrageous idea. Moving on from Rwanda to Uganda and discovering that unlike Kenya and some other African nations, Ugandans indeed have such an affectionate term as “Honey” that they use for someone they love. This word is “mukwano.” However yielded I may or may not be on any given day to my beloved, I can say without reserve that every day, I will be happy to call him “Mukwano”!