Hi all,
In
the first two parts of this series I brought out that Jesus first and
always acknowledges where a person is at that moment, without opinion
nor judgement.
With the woman at the well it was very clear:
"You
have truly said you have no husband, for you have had 5 husbands and
the man you are now living with is not your husband. This you have truly
said."
We
will see this pattern over and over again in the gospels as Jesus set
about to heal emotions, first step; Acknowledge where you are right
now.
Perhaps
not so ironically, this is also foundational to every non-spiritual
program that helps with emotional issues, from addictions to depression,
from financial ruin to ruined relationships people have brought on
themselves. All these non-spiritual programs and methods have
inadvertently been following the way the Lord starts the healing process
for the emotions: Acknowledge where you are right now.
In
modern words we would say 'take responsibility' for you life. Own up to
where you are right now - no judgement - just own it. This is very
different from the feel good seeker friendly, non-confrontational, no
tough decisions gospel now presented by what used to be cutting edge
charismatic (even Word of Faith) churches. So much of the social gospel
is just ask Jesus into your life and He will make it all better. But
Jesus' methods are quite clear: First step is admitting where you are.
Own it.
Second step...
Is
to allow the Lord to reset your ideas of your own history. This woman
had gone through 5 marriages and that produced a lot of memories and
emotions that formed her opinion about herself and her life. When Jesus
'told me everything I ever did' it reset her understanding of her own
history. She had to allow that. She had to even allow herself to have
questions like, 'If you knew all this and saw all this and watched me go
through all this, why did you not intervene? Where were you?'
Second step part A
IF she had questions like that He offered no explanation. A person who is emotionally bruised must come to a point they realize they will not have all the answers this side of heaven. Emotionally
and spiritual healthy people can work through the how's and why's and
move on, content to let answers come in heaven, while a bruised stem
cannot - they dwell on the how and why.
Jesus
offered this woman no explanation, nor will He offer any other people
in the examples we'll see in the gospels any explanation - some things
must wait until heaven to be answered. To be emotionally healthy a
person must be willing to lay aside the unanswerable questions in a step
of faith and trust.
Paul in II Timothy 1:12:
'I know in whom I have believed and am persuaded He will keep that
which I've entrusted with Him until that day." Trust Him with those
questions.
At
the point of her 'Jesus moment', He had moved on from her past and was
focused on the here and now - the conversation right then. He was not
allowing her to bring up her past, to ask questions about it, to look
over her shoulder once again, sobbing with questions for God in the
flesh who was standing before her - He was in the present.
It
reminds me of something He said to me once in a play of words in
English: "I AM, which is always present. So to be in my presence you
must be in the present."
When
you are in the here and now, in His presence, there is no concern for
the how and why of the past. He didn't bring up why she had gone through
5 marriages, He merely acknowledged it and got her to admit it as well.
Then He moved on.
Third step to emotional healing...
When He told her He was Messiah in John 4:26
she 'left her water pot' and went into the city which led to Jesus
being invited to stay there 2 days. She told others about this
revelation. God accepted her as she was, for what she had been through,
and changed her opinion about her own history. Now she told others how
she had changed.
That
admission of her re-set of her own history is another vital element we
see used by Jesus over and over again. Acknowledge where you are, allow
God to bring revelation to your understanding of your own past which
resets your thinking, then tell others how you've moved on based on the
revelation from God you've had.
Fourth step to emotional healing...
Because
I have so many examples of Jesus healing emotions in the gospels I am
not spending a lot of time on each principle in favor of showing you a
variety of people and how these same elements were applied to them - but
finally this last point with the woman at the well.
In
John 4: 41-43 it tells us that Jesus stayed 2 days with them, and then
He left. He left the woman at the well with new life, and a decision for
her to make. That is an important method of the Lord - He left her with
a decision just as He does us today: Specifically, what is she going to
do with this 6th man she is now living with?
We
don't know what emotional trauma she suffered in her first 5 marriages,
but we do know that there was a reason she was just living with the 6th
man. In modern terms, for people are the same today as back then, it
may have been fear in some form or another - not wanting to bury yet
another husband, not wanting to commit just to have him leave her for a
younger girl friend - or a host of other reasons then, just as today.
Jesus left her so she could decide
There
are many examples showing that the Lord often plays the role of
Observer, just watching to see what we will do. If you're like me,
you've had many times in the midst of decision making that you've been
aware the Lord is watching, waiting, staying in the background to see
what decision you will make.
"And when the Lord saw that Leah was hated, He opened her womb..." Genesis 29:31
"Don't
rejoice when your enemy falls, don't let your heart be glad when he
stumbles; lest the Lord see it and it displeases Him..." Proverbs
24:17-18
"And
Peter said, 'Man, I don't know what you are saying'. And immediately
the rooster crowed. And the Lord turned, and looked at Peter..." Luke
22:60-61
And
so it was that Jesus left the woman at the well with a decision before
her face: What will she do about her living arrangements? He being God,
would watch from afar. I like to say it this way: "Often times God is
not in the event; He is found in our response to an event." He will let
you make a decision without His influence at all - you know enough to
make a godly decision - and He may be found in the right decision.
Wanting God to make the decision for them
I
see this gospel of 'let God decide for me' repeatedly: Christians who
won't move for the spiritually good sounding reason of 'I don't want to
miss God', but in reality it is 'I'm afraid'. "I'm afraid of change."
"I'm afraid of the difficulty financially and emotionally." "I'm afraid
because it is all new to me and what I have and where I am, though
miserable, offers some degree of comfort because it is familiar." Jesus
left this woman to make her own decisions about her living arrangement. The
emotionally bruised person just feels alone, not realizing they are
alone only in the sense He is stepping back because the decision is
there. He IS there, just in the background out of view.
And
I've run out of room - sorry to cut it off there - we'll pick it up
next week with another example of emotional healing in the
gospels...until then, blessings,
John Fenn
www.cwowi.org and email me at cwowi@aol.com
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