Jumat, 15 November 2013

LK10: A surprising new approach to effective house church leadership

Dear LK10 Family,

How do you lead a house church so that it becomes "a vibrant family of Jesus"?  How can it become a group with a high level of ownership and participation?  How can you lead in such a way that you, as the leader, don't burn out?

For years, I practiced what I now call "the standard approach to group leadership".  Then, I met Dick Wulf who taught me a powerful new approach based on 1 Cor. 12:12.  "The body is a unit, though it is made up of many parts."  What Dick taught me was to disciple the group rather than individuals in the group.  What exactly does this mean?

In the Google Hangout video below, I begin to unpack this concept.  The Hangout in this video was prompted by Al Paradise (Colorado) asking the question:  "What do you do with people who share for a long time (politely called "over talking") or who get off track?"  In order to answer that question, we explore the surprising and powerful idea of discipling a group.

Since this video is an hour long, it's the only resource I'm sending in this LK10 Update this week.  I think you will find it well worth your time!  Click on this link (and not the photo):  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NSS7uwsx1_U



To share your comments and questions about this video, go here in the LK10 Forum:  http://www.lk10.com/community/community-discussion/?cid=24&show=1338

Note:  We are beginning to increasingly use Google Hangouts as a vehicle for developing the LK10 Community as a "community of practice".  If you haven't already, I want to encourage you to sign up with Google+ and become familiar with Google Hangouts.

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Delighted to be on the journey with you!

John

John White
Team Leader
LK10:  A Community of Practice for House Church Leaders
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LK10: Soul Words

Dear LK10 Family,

Picture a thousand people sitting in an auditorium listening to some great preaching and enjoying a great worship band.  While there are helpful things that can occur in that context, it is, in some ways, unfortunate that we call that picture "church".  Call it a "lecture".  Call it a "concert".  Just don't call it "church".  

I know this is a fairly radical statement but bear with me.

If Scripture is our "authoritative guide for faith and practice", we must conclude that the primary metaphor for church is "family".  Here's another quote along that line from the book I referenced last week, House Church and Mission (by Roger Gehring), "For the Pastorals (First and Second Timothy and Titus), the church really is the household or the family of God.  Viewed in this way, 'house or family of God' becomes the model for responsible behavior as well as for church order and leadership structures, and the central, all-guiding image for the self-understanding and organization of the church."  p. 261.

We see Paul not only writing about this idea of "church as family" but living it out.  When he describes the process of making disciples, he uses family language...

*For we know, brothers loved by God, that he has chose you...   1 Thes. 1:4  (see also 2:1, 17; 3:2, 7; etc.)
*... we were gentle among you, like a mother caring for her little children.  1Thes 2:7
*... we dealt with each of you as a father deals with his own children...   1 Thes 2:11

This is also a core value in the LK10 Community...  restoring the New Testament concept of "church as family".  

And, in that auditorium with a thousand people, you really can't be family in any meaningful way.  One of the many family things you can't do in that context is sharing soul words.


1.  "We have to find words for what is inside us."   If church is a thousand (or a hundred) people in an auditorium, we need skills like public speaking and crowd control.  If church is a family, we need a whole different set of skills.  In fact, the same skill set that is necessary for a healthy marriage and a healthy family is also necessary for a healthy church (in the New Testament sense of the word "church").  Ideally, house church reinforces family and family reinforces house church.  

"We are not born knowing how to understand and express what is inside our souls... We have to learn to notice and be aware of our internal experiences, to search our hearts and find words for what is inside us.  Being fully known and understood requires that we say aloud to someone else what is going on within ours souls."  Milan and Kay Yerkovich, How We Love, p. 19.  (While this book is about marriage, it has huge implications for house church.  I am indebted to Brittani and Tim Morris (Ohio) for this resource.)





2.  Soul Words.  "If you trusted your parents and felt safe enough to share your inner self with them, you likely learned some soul words for expressing your feelings and became able to relate to people on a deep level.  Soul words allow you to express all that is going on in your heart and mind."  Yerkovich. p. 19  

That's it!  Soul words are key to relating "to people on a deep level".  Whether in a marriage, a family or a church.

Some further observations...

*Good spiritual moms and dads (like Paul in 1 Thes 2) do many of the same things that good physical moms and dads do for their children.
*The problem is that many of us did not grow up in homes (or churches) where we learned to use soul words.  House church can be a place of learning skills we didn't learn when we were children.
*The soul words described by the Yerkovichs are simply an expansion of SASHET.  For instance, here are words that expand HAPPY.

HAPPY, cheerful, delighted, elated, encouraged, glad, gratified, joyful, lighthearted, overjoyed, pleased, relieved, satisfied, thrilled, secure.


Experiment:  Make copies of the list of soul words found in the link above for everyone in your house church.  When you meet, give everyone the list and have them take a couple of minutes to identify 2-3 soul words to use for their Check In this week.  (This list of soul words is great for your marriage and family also!)  Share your comments, observations and questions about soul words in the LK10 Forum here:  http://www.lk10.com/community/community-discussion/?cid=23&show=1330

3.  "I've never seen anything like it."   Tom Griesemer (Colorado) has been a church leader for close to 50 years and has "seen it all".  But at the LK10 Labor Day Conference, he experienced something for the first time in his Table Church.  With six people from varied backgrounds that he had never met before, he experienced a unity and bonding in literally minutes that he had never experienced before.  How is that "rapid bonding" explained?  Because the focus was on the family activities of sharing on a heart level (soul words or SASHET) and listening to Jesus, our older brother.  To hear Tom's story, click on the link not the photo.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jfN6eMhMbi4




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Delighted to be on the journey with you!

John

John White
Team Leader
LK10:  A Community of Practice for House Church Leaders
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LK10: A vocabulary for connecting

Dear LK10 Family,

A key resource for understanding the kind of churches that Jesus and his disciples planted is House Church and Mission by Roger Gehring.  One of the most important things we learn in that book is that "the household (oikos) was more than a model; it was the matrix of the new congregation... a close connection exists between the family as ordained in creation and the NT house church."

In the LK10 Community, we seek to live this out by embracing the same rhythms of attention in marriages and families as we do in house church.  See below for stories and resources that describe what this looks like with the rhythm of "checking in".  Consider passing this email on to the people in your house church.  Or, even showing the videos in your meeting and talking about them.

BTW, I've condensed Gehring's book to a 15 page summary of key quotes.  If you would like a copy, shoot me an email and say "Send Gehring".


1.  "A vocabulary for connecting."  Many of you met Tom and Jackie Griesemer (Colorado) at the LK10 Labor Day Conference.  They recently taught "checking in" to 30 couples at a marriage conference they were leading.  Watch the video to see what happened.  (Click on the link, not the photo)   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S4bk7eHOAzE






2.  "It was a cycle of feeling stuck."   Jason and Sara Bunch are church planters in Dallas and Austin, TX.  After four years of marriage, they were at a stuck place in their communications with each other.  Watch the video to see how they got unstuck.  (Click on the link, not the photo)   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJPK2TXRFsw




3.  "I need a word so I can say what I'm feeling today."  Dave Matthews and Grover explain to us why it is important to be able to name what we are feeling.  This is a great video for both children and adults!  Thanks to Desi Starr (Colorado) for sending me this video!  (Click on the link, not the photo.)




4.  Photos from the LK10 Conference  Thanks to Sean Hyatt (Colorado) for these great photos!




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John

John White
Team Leader
LK10:  A Community of Practice for House Church Leaders
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I've been ruin 5

Hi all,
"Abnormal Christianity! All around me, everything I see, is abnormal Christianity."
 
I longed for the amazing experiences with the Lord people had through the 30 years covered in the book of Acts, but didn't see any of that in my 'aquarium' of the faith. To me it was clear Acts is more than history, it details 30 years of normal Christianity.
 
Yet all around me all I saw was the goofy or the dry as toast boring. No where did I see 'real' people, mature in character and life, balanced in their walk, knowing how to walk in the Spirit - Christians as depicted in Acts and mentioned in Paul's letters.
 
The arguments
The mind tries to find ways to justify why Christianity today doesn't resemble that seen in Acts:
 
That was only for the first century to get the story of Jesus started - But I thought; Aren't we in need of as dramatic a gospel now as then, with so many more millions upon millions of people on the earth? And if God is Judge of all, isn't He willing to provide evidence of the truth of Jesus now as He did then?
 
Now people have the written Word, so we don't need signs and wonders. But the Lord had to see down through time to our day, yet He still said, 'Those who believe in my name will lay hands on the sick, cast out demons...." (Note, that is not, 'Those who believe, in my name will lay hands...' but rather 'Those who believe in my name will lay hands on...' This understanding is consistent with Acts 3:16 where Peter said it was through his faith in the name of Jesus the lame man was healed)
 
One by one
Arguments rose in my mind, and one by one the Word had an answer. And then I read Acts 1:1, which ended all arguments, all efforts at justifying the abnormality around me, case closed, period, paragraph, over and out: "In my earlier book Theophilus, I wrote about all that Jesus began to do and teach."
 
A flood of revelation raced through me. Luke had written the gospel of Luke to a Roman named Theophilus, as seen in Luke 1:1-4, "Dear Theophilus...I have therefore decided...to set the life of Jesus down for you myself in proper order..." (Note: Luke is the only author of a gospel to state he is writing in chronological order the life of Jesus, and Acts continues his chronological order of events.)
 
The gospel of Luke is the first part of a 2 part work walking the reader through the life of Jesus in chronological order, Acts is part 2 of that volume. Luke's gospel ends with Jesus ascending to heaven, not to be seen physically until His return (Though He has been seen by many through the centuries in the Spirit).
 
Yet he opens Acts saying this: "I wrote about all that Jesus began to do and teach." The gospel of Luke was just what Jesus began to do and teach, meaning Acts is the continuation of all He BEGAN.
 
Through the centuries the abnormal became normal, sadly
"Abnormal Christianity. All around me, everything I see, is abnormal Christianity. Acts is normal. Acts is the continuation of what Jesus began to do and teach. There is an unbroken string from the gospel ministry of Jesus, to the spiritual ministry of Jesus in Acts, to my life today - and the disciples continued all the signs and wonders Jesus began to do, and taught what He taught - Jesus is still continuing to do what He began to do and teach even to my day. I am part of an unbroken string through 2,000 years of all that Jesus began to do and teach."
 
That was what I said to myself when I realized Acts was the continuation of what was begun...and nothing around me resembled that continuation of what Jesus began to do and teach. Acts is normal Christianity. I longed for that! I wanted to be part of the continuation of what Jesus began to do and teach!
 
I couldn't do that in any aquarium because every aquarium of the faith had deviated from Acts. I had to swim in the open ocean of the Spirit just as the apostles did, to continue the ministry of the Lord as they did. I was finally willing to let my reasoning's, my emotions, my Bible education, all I thought was 'right' in my understanding of the Word, actually submit to the Word in context as it was intended.  
 
If I was to be a part of what He began, I needed to rearrange my thinking, realizing the apostles were just walking out what Jesus began, so I needed to do what they did so I could know Him like they did, and see the signs and wonders like they did. And possibly turn my world upside down in Christ like they did.
How they did 'church'
So when the argument arose trying to explain away why they met in homes for the first 300 years after Pentecost as being due to persecution, it melted away. Meeting in homes is a continuation of all that Jesus began to do and teach.
 
Many if not most of His miracles and bringing people to Him were done in homes - From water into wine, to 2 blind men healed as he ate, to healing meetings at the door of Peter's mother in law's house, to dinner in the home of Simon the Leper, to calling height-challenged Zacchaeus down from the tree to have dinner in his home - the gospel story was shared in and around homes. But it is deeper than that, the first house church was Adam, Eve, and the Lord in the garden, for where 2 or more are gathered, He is in their midst, and throughout the Old Testament God makes it clear the home is the centerpiece of learning of Him.
 
Then I looked around the world and saw house churches popping up in every nation whether Christians were persecuted or not, so that argument fell by the way side quickly. God is moving in the relationships found in family and homes.
 
Written to whom?
Then I saw to whom the original letters were written, as detailed in Acts and the end of some of Paul's letters: Priscilla & Aquila in Rome and then Ephesus, Justus in Corinth, Jason in Thessalonica, Lydia in Philippi, Philemon in Colossae, and a woman name Nymphas in Laodecia - all mentioned as hosting church meetings in their homes. Our New Testament consists of letters initially sent to churches who met in these people's homes. (Acts 16:15, 40; 17:5; 18:7; 20:20; Rom 16: 3-5; I Cor 16:8, 19; Col 4:15; Philemon v1-2)
 
Out of context
Suddenly I had the kind of horrible revelation one only receives when they realize the key foundation their whole life was built upon was all wrong, all their assumptions wrong, and all they had believed about someone was skewed in the wrong direction. All my life I had applied the New Testament to the auditorium setting when in fact the whole of the New Testament was written by apostles doing house church, to people doing house church, and applied in their lives in home based meetings.
 
The place for the celebrated '5-fold' is in the home. The place for the gifts of the Spirit is in the home. The place for the Lord's Supper is in the home - all I held near and dear to my heart I had been lifting out of context and applied to an auditorium setting - completely different than intended! All efforts of mental gymnastics to justify why I did church in the auditorium, to prove why I could do church differently than the continuation of the ministry of Jesus as seen in Acts, ended. Instead of trying to justify myself, I repented.
 
I was totally dejected, horrified and loathing myself, completely repenting, apologizing to the Lord over and over for twisting what He had begun to do and teach into a form of my own design. Suddenly I saw it - all those aquariums of the faith were truly man-made, while the family and home was God-made; He built the garden of Eden and the first family, He did not make the auditoriums we've had the last 1,700 years.
 
Meeting in homes was God's design,
He made the home and ministered in homes, that's why it is a continuation of all Jesus began to do and teach! The horror of 25 years of my life teaching my Lord's words out of context hit me hard - and I also did disservice to Paul and Peter and John, James and Jude as I even asked the Lord to apologize to them - I was so horrified at myself!
 
I have had my own words lifted out of context and used by others in a way not intended by me, often to attack me. One of the enemy's greatest tools is lifting quotes or reading into another's words to stir up strife - even testimony against the Lord at His trial was witnesses who lifted out of context and twisted His words to be used against Him. I had done a very similar thing by teaching the Word in the auditorium context! He is SO merciful to have received me, anointed His Word as I taught, even though the application of said Word was intended to be in the close relationships seen in home-based churches.  
 
I realize God is big enough to fill any structure man gives Him so I find no fault in others worshipping in the auditorium, but I can only speak through the grace given to me, and for me, 25 years of carefully constructed faith had to be rearranged. I would only be satisfied being part of the continuation of Jesus' ministry as He started and the apostles continued it - I had to be part of that open ocean of the faith.
 
Next week; picking up and reassembling the pieces.
    Blessings,
        John Fenn

The Spirit of the Law


The Spirit of the Law

“Teacher, this woman was caught in adultery, in the very act. Now Moses, in the law, commanded us that such should be stoned. But what do You say?”
JOHN 8:4,5

Legally they were on solid ground. But to her accusers, Jesus replied, “He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first.” And when they all left, being convicted by their own conscience, He said to the woman: “Neither do I condemn you. Go, and sin no more” (John 8:12). We must conclude that however good the Law was, it did not represent God’s highest, or God’s best.
Jesus represents the holiness and purity of the Law but emphasized the part that had been too long overlooked: grace and humility. He came to address the deeper issues of the heart, and in so doing, showed us what God really intended from the beginning. He did not destroy the Law, He superseded the Law! Thus He fulfilled the spirit of the Law – even if it sometimes appeared as if He did not follow the letter of the Law.
Source: The Irresistible Kingdom by Chip Brogden

Kamis, 14 November 2013

Press Toward the Goal


Press Toward the Goal

“I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”
PHILIPPIANS 3:14

God has a purpose for the universe: that in all things Christ would have the preeminence. This is the Heavenly Bullseye. Since you, dear reader, are part of the universe, you are one of those “all things.” So this purpose includes you.
Actually, this is the same purpose He had in mind for Adam: that Christ would have the preeminence in him. But Adam chose an independent path and failed to give Christ the preeminence. He took the preeminence for himself. Adam missed the mark, which is a life submitted to, and totally dependent upon, God.
Source: The Irresistible Kingdom by Chip Brogden

The Most High Rules


The Most High Rules

“The Most High rules in the kingdoms of men.”
DANIEL 4:17

Christ is increasing and filling all things. Have you seen this? If you have, then embrace it, submit to it, cooperate with it, be in harmony with it, order your life around it, demonstrate it to the world around you, and pray for its fulfillment.
Get aligned with something and Someone higher and greater than yourself. For when you see God’s Purpose, and you adjust your life according to that Purpose, and you consistently pray for the fulfillment of that Purpose, then His Purpose cannot be stopped; His Will cannot be frustrated; His Kingdom cannot be defeated. Heaven singles you out and Hell trembles with fear. You just became undefeatable! You just joined the Remnant.
Source: The Irresistible Kingdom by Chip Brogden