Are You Choking Discussion in Your Group?
February 23, 2015 By 4 Comments
I’m not a mechanical person, but I’ve been vaguely aware for years that choke valves are an important component for internal combustion engines. Growing up, I had to work the choke pretty hard to get my dad’s old tractor to fire up when it was my turn to mow the lawn.
Now, after some internet research, I have a better idea of why choke valves are so important. They basically regulate the amount of air that gets mixed in with the gasoline inside the engine. By choking back on the air, the engine receives a more enriched supply of gasoline, which can help get things started better under certain conditions.
While choke valves are a good and helpful tool for engines, they are not so helpful in small-group discussions. In fact, they can be damaging.
Unfortunately, many small groups contain “choke valve” people who regularly and actively choke out the discussion within the group. Worse, those choke valves are often the group leaders themselves.
Conversation Flow
In my experience, a typical “discussion flow” in small groups and Sunday school classes may look something like this:
- The Group Leader asks a question.
- Person A responds.
- The Group Leader comments on Person A’s response.
- Person B responds.
- The Group Leader comments on Person B’s response and adds a story of his or her own to illustrate what Person B meant to say.
- Person C responds.
- The Group Leader comments on Person C’s response, then ask if anyone else has anything to say.
- The Group Leader asks another question.
Do you see the problem with this kind of discussion flow? When a group conversation is centered on the group leader, it’s not really discussion at all. Instead, the group leader serves as a choke that prevents any genuine discussion from really breaking out.
Sadly, many group leaders have been taught to “manage” group conversations this way. This is what many people have in mind when they think about “facilitating” a discussion. In reality, serving as a choke valve will clog or kill the discussions in your group.
A Better Way
So, what would a healthy “discussion flow” look like? Here’s a good example:
- The Group Leader asks a question.
- Person A responds.
- Person B responds.
- Person C comments on something Person A said, and then adds another idea.
- The Group Leader offers a thought.
- Person D responds to the original question.
- Person E asks for clarification on something he or she didn’t understand.
- Person B offers that clarification.
- The Group Leader asks a new question.
As a leader, choose to work toward a healthy “discussion flow” in your groups.
Sam O’Neal is a Content Editor on the Adult Ministry Publishing team at LifeWay. He has a passion for seeing discipleship and full-bodied Christian education done right in the local church—especially in the context of small group communities. Sam is also the author of “The Field Guide for Small Group Leaders“. You can follow Sam on Twitter @SamTONeal or at bible.about.com.
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