Teach Your Small Group to Be Comfortable With Group Prayer
“The personal prayer life of a leader is one of the most important areas a leader can develop.”
One of the main goals
of a Life Group at our church is to get to a point where the group
members are praying out loud together. For some groups, the idea of
group prayer seems far off and unachievable. For other groups, group
prayer has become a staple. When it comes to prayer, the role of the
leader is two-fold:
1. Personal prayer life: To continually develop his or her own prayer life.
2. Group prayer: To help cultivate an environment of group prayer.
Jim Egli has done extensive research on the correlation between a group leader’s prayer life and the health of the group. Egli’s research found that the most important thing a leader can do for his or her group is to pray regularly for group members. Finding opportunities to pray throughout the day can help shape us into prayerful leaders.
A few years ago a friend shared with me that he prays for his group on the way to and from work each day. Rather than listening to the radio or music, he prays for one group member in the morning and a different one in the evening commute. By the time he gets to the end of the week he has prayed for all the members of his group. Since hearing his story, my drive home has become a time for me to pray for my small group. You may find another way to pray throughout the day for your group members. The point is to create space in your life to pray regularly for your group.
One of the most common prayer methods today is the “lone leader” method. Time is spent sharing prayer requests, the leader writes down the requests, and then the leader prays for the requests. There are several problems with the “lone leader” method:
It’s important to let the group know the following guidelines:
1. Keep it short and let everyone know there will be time later for longer, more specific prayers.
2. Participating more than once is encouraged.
3. It’s OK to repeat a word or thought someone else has already prayed.
Some examples could be:
God, you are ___.
God, thank you ___.
God, I love you because _____.
God, help me overcome my fear of ___.
The leader will go first to set the example. For instance, the leader may say, “God, you are forgiving.” Then group members can share their own sentences. When it’s time for the second one the leader will again go first. After you’ve gone through two or three sentence prayers, transition the group into a time of open prayer. Now is the time to pray for anything that may be on your heart or mind.
Provide notecards and pens for everyone to write down prayer requests. Be sure to let the group know that the prayer requests will be shared with the person on their left and potentially prayed for out loud. Remind group members to keep prayer requests focused on themselves or their immediate family members.
Once group members finish writing their requests, pass the notecards one person to the left. If you lead a co-ed group, it might be better to have group members pass to the next person on their left who is the same gender.
Next group members will pray silently or out loud for the cards they hold. The leader begins the prayer time by praying for the notecard he or she received. Once everyone has had a chance to pray, the leader will close the prayer time.
Group members take home the cards they received and pray throughout the week for the requests.
Pass out notecards and pens ensuring everyone has three cards. Ask group members to write one word on each card: Thanks, Sorry and Please. Then turn over the cards and write a corresponding prayer for each. Let group members know ahead of time that cards will be shuffled and redistributed for prayer, so someone else will be reading what they wrote. They don’t need to write their name on the cards, though.
Once everyone is finished writing, collect the cards in three separate stacks: Thanks, Sorry and Please. Shuffle or mix up each stack and pass out the cards. If group members receive one of their own cards, they can either keep it or exchange it. Then group members will take turns reading the card they received as a prayer. Read all the Thanks cards before continuing on to the Sorry cards, and all the Sorry cards before moving on to the Please cards. The leader can begin the time, and then close the time once everyone has gone.
Once the time has closed, each member is encouraged to pray for the prayers they received as well as any other shared prayers from the evening throughout the coming week.
My wife and I lead a group, and we struggled to engage all the members in group prayer. When we asked people to pray, Jim would always avoid eye contact and joke about how he was never going to pray.
Eventually we incorporated Guided Prayer, and though Jim was very uncomfortable, he completed his sentence. As weeks went by, we saw Jim become more and more comfortable. The Teaspoon Prayer and Guided Prayer gave Jim more confidence and comfort, and now Jim prays freely. By introducing a variety of prayer methods with the expectation that everyone would eventually pray, we have seen not only Jim but our whole group grow leaps and bounds in their group prayer life.
1. Personal prayer life: To continually develop his or her own prayer life.
2. Group prayer: To help cultivate an environment of group prayer.
Personal Prayer Life
The personal prayer life of a leader is one of the most important areas a leader can develop. It’s evident throughout Scripture that prayer is vital for the health of Christians, but often we overlook actually praying. Jesus said: “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing” (John 15:5). Having an intimate and intentional relationship with Jesus bears fruit. We must first have this kind of relationship with Jesus before we can lead others there.Jim Egli has done extensive research on the correlation between a group leader’s prayer life and the health of the group. Egli’s research found that the most important thing a leader can do for his or her group is to pray regularly for group members. Finding opportunities to pray throughout the day can help shape us into prayerful leaders.
A few years ago a friend shared with me that he prays for his group on the way to and from work each day. Rather than listening to the radio or music, he prays for one group member in the morning and a different one in the evening commute. By the time he gets to the end of the week he has prayed for all the members of his group. Since hearing his story, my drive home has become a time for me to pray for my small group. You may find another way to pray throughout the day for your group members. The point is to create space in your life to pray regularly for your group.
Group Prayer
What does healthy group prayer look like? Unfortunately, many of the most popular group prayer methods aren’t ideal.One of the most common prayer methods today is the “lone leader” method. Time is spent sharing prayer requests, the leader writes down the requests, and then the leader prays for the requests. There are several problems with the “lone leader” method:
- Only one person in the group is praying out loud.
- Usually more time is spent discussing the prayer requests than actually praying.
- Prayer requests are given central stage and opportunities to engage in praising God, asking for forgiveness and thanksgiving are neglected.
Barriers to Healthy Group Prayer
Let’s be honest. Group prayer makes a lot of people nervous or frustrated. If we want to move beyond the “lone leader” method to open prayer, we’ll have to address these barriers. Dan Mancini once wrote about four common barriers to group prayer that I’ve found helpful:- Group members lack experience with prayer.
- Group prayers lack authenticity and depth.
- Group prayer times lack structure and variety.
- Group members don’t follow up on prayer requests.
Prayer Exercises
But there are also several things you can do to help your group members feel more comfortable with group prayer. I teach my small-group leaders to use different kinds of prayers to help group members become more comfortable praying out loud over time. Try these ideas in order.Guided Prayer
This is a great way to introduce a group to praying out loud together. The model is simple: The leader explains to the group that everyone will fill in the blank of a sentence prayer. This keeps the prayers simple and allows everyone to talk. Plus, it’s a great way to connect prayer to your study topic. For instance, if you’ve just done a study on celebration, guide the group with “God, I celebrate you because___.”It’s important to let the group know the following guidelines:
1. Keep it short and let everyone know there will be time later for longer, more specific prayers.
2. Participating more than once is encouraged.
3. It’s OK to repeat a word or thought someone else has already prayed.
Some examples could be:
God, you are ___.
God, thank you ___.
God, I love you because _____.
God, help me overcome my fear of ___.
The leader will go first to set the example. For instance, the leader may say, “God, you are forgiving.” Then group members can share their own sentences. When it’s time for the second one the leader will again go first. After you’ve gone through two or three sentence prayers, transition the group into a time of open prayer. Now is the time to pray for anything that may be on your heart or mind.
Prayer Request Cards
It’s common for groups to spend time taking prayer requests. Unfortunately many groups spend more time discussing those requests than actually praying. This method collects prayer requests yet keeps the focus on praying.Provide notecards and pens for everyone to write down prayer requests. Be sure to let the group know that the prayer requests will be shared with the person on their left and potentially prayed for out loud. Remind group members to keep prayer requests focused on themselves or their immediate family members.
Once group members finish writing their requests, pass the notecards one person to the left. If you lead a co-ed group, it might be better to have group members pass to the next person on their left who is the same gender.
Next group members will pray silently or out loud for the cards they hold. The leader begins the prayer time by praying for the notecard he or she received. Once everyone has had a chance to pray, the leader will close the prayer time.
Group members take home the cards they received and pray throughout the week for the requests.
Teaspoon (T.S.P.) Prayer
The T.S.P. prayer method encourages everyone to share a Thanks, Sorry and Please. The T.S.P. method creates an important yet often overlooked opportunity to tell God we’re sorry.Pass out notecards and pens ensuring everyone has three cards. Ask group members to write one word on each card: Thanks, Sorry and Please. Then turn over the cards and write a corresponding prayer for each. Let group members know ahead of time that cards will be shuffled and redistributed for prayer, so someone else will be reading what they wrote. They don’t need to write their name on the cards, though.
Once everyone is finished writing, collect the cards in three separate stacks: Thanks, Sorry and Please. Shuffle or mix up each stack and pass out the cards. If group members receive one of their own cards, they can either keep it or exchange it. Then group members will take turns reading the card they received as a prayer. Read all the Thanks cards before continuing on to the Sorry cards, and all the Sorry cards before moving on to the Please cards. The leader can begin the time, and then close the time once everyone has gone.
Once the time has closed, each member is encouraged to pray for the prayers they received as well as any other shared prayers from the evening throughout the coming week.
Growing Comfort
These three methods have a natural progression that helps people grow in their comfort of praying out loud. For some group members, this may be the first time they’ve ever prayed out loud. We must respect where they are. At the same time, we must be willing to gently push them outside of their comfort zone without shoving them off a cliff. This process takes time and the leader needs to discern how to help each group member grow in this area.My wife and I lead a group, and we struggled to engage all the members in group prayer. When we asked people to pray, Jim would always avoid eye contact and joke about how he was never going to pray.
Eventually we incorporated Guided Prayer, and though Jim was very uncomfortable, he completed his sentence. As weeks went by, we saw Jim become more and more comfortable. The Teaspoon Prayer and Guided Prayer gave Jim more confidence and comfort, and now Jim prays freely. By introducing a variety of prayer methods with the expectation that everyone would eventually pray, we have seen not only Jim but our whole group grow leaps and bounds in their group prayer life.
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