Sabtu, 17 September 2016

The Absolute Best Discussion Question You Can Ask in Small Group

The Absolute Best Discussion Question You Can Ask in Small Group

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It turns out that the best questions for group discussion aren’t questions at all.
One of the greatest skills that you need to run a good Bible study is the instinct to craft good questions. You know what I mean…
1. Never ask a question where the answer is Yes or No. “Is this verse saying that God is good?”
2. Never ask a question that is so blindingly obvious that no one will want to answer it: “Who loved the world so much that he gave his only Son?”
3. Never ask multiple questions: “What has God said he will do for his people in verse 7, why will he do it and what will be the result, and what horse won the 3.30 at Kempton Park Racecourse?”
4. Always ask open questions that get people to think about what the Scriptures are actually saying: “What is the big surprise in v. 15?”
5. Ask not just about facts (what) but also about motivation (why) and connections (how): “Why do you think Jesus asks this question the way he does?”
But I’ve discovered over the years that, as the title says, often the best questions are not questions at all. Here’s what I mean:
You’ve asked one of your finely crafted questions, and Janice, a young Christian who doesn’t usually say very much, gives a hesitating answer that shows she’s on the right track. You can tell by the wrinkled forehead that she has got a lot more thoughts in her mind but is unsure about her first answer so has not said any more. So now is your chance to deploy the finest two words in Bible study history.
Are you ready for them?
Take a deep breath and repeat after me:
“Go on.”
Say these two words out loud now—they will change the face of your home group forever!
“Go on.”
These words say loads of things to Jittery Janice or Shrinking Stephen or Hesitant Hannah or Timid Trevor. They tell them:
1. You’re on the right track.
2. I’m interested in the thoughts that are in your head—please share them around so that other people can be encouraged by them.
3. The stage is yours…
It’s the equivalent of what some books call an “extending question”—but without the need to think of another question. With the right tone or even prefacing it with “I think you’re on the right track here, go on…” or “That’s an interesting idea, go on…” you are encouraging them to speak so they can encourage everyone else.
Try it at your next home group meeting, and you will be astonished by the power of these two little words to transform your group.
But a word of caution. Don’t tell your group to read this article. Word got back to a group I once ran about a training session I ran where I talked about these magic words. From that time on, all they did when I said “Go on” was laugh at me…

Common Courtesies: Small Group Ground Rules

Common Courtesies: Small Group Ground Rules

Common Courtesies: Small Group Ground Rules
Setting group ground rules should be a group exercise.
It’s your first night with your new small group. Everyone is getting along wonderfully, the discussion is moving at a good pace and the level of sharing is deeper than you’d expected…
Then, just as everyone is quieting down for a time of reflection and prayer, it happens. Someone’s cell phone rings. The person with the phone looks around guiltily. One person giggles. Another shoots an angry look. The phone keeps ringing, until the person quickly steps outside to answer it. But now the momentum is disrupted. Others are annoyed or distracted, while you’re left asking yourself, “How could we have avoided this?”
The simple answer: ground rules. Every group needs a few guidelines that everyone can agree upon. This helps people know what to expect from others and what others will be expecting of them. It also promotes give-and-take interaction and encourages a sense of equality among group members, so no one person becomes more or less important than another.
Of course, if you go into a group and announce, “Here are the rules!” others might feel a bit put off. Instead, take the approach of having your group work together to establish a few simple ground rules. It can be your first project together as a group and will help everyone have a feeling of ownership in the group.
At your first meeting (or as soon as possible, if you’ve already begun your group), ask everyone to suggest one guideline. You can do this out loud and write suggestions on newsprint, or have everyone write one or two thoughts on index cards, then collect them and read them aloud (to avoid embarrassing those not quite ready to share). Either way, gather your suggestions, let others give inpu, and decide on just a few that everyone can agree upon. You don’t have to have a long list, but be sure the concerns of the group are addressed by those you settle upon.
Here are a few basic ground rules you might consider:
  • Confidentiality. It’s not just for Las Vegas. What’s said at group stays at group. No one wants to find out he or she has been the subject of gossip or well-meaning “prayer discussions.” This is probably the most important ground rule of all.
  • Start on time—and end on time. It will be up to you as the leader to guide the group in sticking with this commitment. It’s especially helpful to those who have children at home with babysitters and those with work schedules that are affected by late nights or meetings that run over.
  • Discussion involves everyone. To make this work, everyone needs to participate as a listener and as a speaker. It should be understood that when one person is monopolizing the discussion, the leader could say, “Let’s hear from someone else now.” Then, when another person has listened for a long time, the leader might ask, “Jennie, do you have any input you’d like to share?”
  • Remember your manners. Avoid dismissing the thoughts of others, don’t laugh at others when they’ve shared (unless they’ve just told a joke), and no putdowns of any kind. These are the actions that make others “shut down” and feel uneasy about sharing. Opening up can be hard enough for some people as it is. Your group should be a welcoming place for all.
  • It’s OK to agree to disagree. It’s just a fact of life that everyone has different opinions. If the group has differing thoughts on an issue, there’s no requirement that everyone agree. After a reasonable time of discussion, the leader or another group member could state that it’s time to leave this point unresolved and move on to another discussion question or activity. No one should have his or her feelings hurt if others don’t share all the same opinions.
And perhaps one last suggestion…Turn off cell phones before group begins!  
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The Lies We Believe

The Lies We Believe
“Do not worry about tomorrow.”
-MATTHEW 6:34

Most of us, from time to time or nearly all of the time, worry about something – our health, our finances, our loved ones, and so on. Yet the Scriptures say to take no thought for your lives and be anxious for nothing. Why is worry a sin? I know we consider it “only human,” but worry really implies a lack of trust in God. It is believing a lie. Identify the lie and you can quickly discover the Truth. What is the lie? That God is somehow less than sufficient, that perhaps He will not come through for us.

So you see, the enemy gets us to believe a lie, and then gets us to think that we are just being “human.” So then we accept something less than the normal Christian life – overcoming – and think that is just the way it is. Remember: satan has no power apart from our belief in his lie.

Source: "The Irresistible Kingdom"  by Chip Brogden
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John Fenn, We are Light #3 (Heavens Light)

Hi all,
I've been talking about light - We are citizens of a city of light, the heavenly Jerusalem, a city which will one day come down to earth so God can live among men.
 
When I went to heaven
In about 1990 I was praying in our church one afternoon and suddenly in the Spirit, and saw my angel's arm appear in the air above my left arm. I heard him say, "Take my hand", and I did so, watching in fascination as my spirit man's left hand and arm came out of my physical arm and when I grabbed his hand I was immediately taken away in the Spirit through space...
 
...I felt us slowing down and I turned to see us coming upon a huge city suspended before us, with bright glowing white walls about 20 stories tall and about every 300 miles or so (my eyesight was as good as I needed it to be so distance wasn't an issue) were big tall gates at the base with each side seemingly made of 1/2 a pearl or mother of pearl in appearance. I was amazed because there was no place for those gates to open to but the emptiness of space...but I didn't have time to think about it then...later I realized the city we call heaven will come to earth*, and at that time those gates will be of use. *Revelation 21:2-3, 25-27
 
What amazed me was the pure white light emanating from the walls of the city, yet it didn't hurt my eyes. I found when I focused on the light and looked directly at the walls, I could see myriad other colors - when I looked away or was not focused on 1 spot all I saw was white, but when I focused it was like seeing what made up that white light and all the colors of everything was suddenly seen. I suspect those colors are the rest of the light spectrum that cannot be seen with earth-eyes - thus my chart from part 1 of this series.
 
The walls had jewels of different colors in them and many of the jewels were huge and almost had an extruded look to them, not cuts like jewelry worn on a necklace or ring today. Many were smooth and long and of various colors and shapes imbedded in and part of the walls.
Many of them at least 3 feet (1m) long. What an amazing city I was about to get a tour of! (You can read more about this in Pursuing the Seasons of God and the sequel, Knowing the Ways of God, both available as e-books)
 
We are that city!
"Come here, I will show you the bride, the Lamb's wife*: And he carried me away in the Spirit to a great and high mountain, and he showed me that great city, the holy Jerusalem, descending out of heaven from God...prepared as a bride adorned for her husband..." *Revelation  21:2, 9-27
 
Most people don't realize when they make the decision to grow in Christ rather than succumb to their old nature, those victories carry more weight than merely making us a better and more mature person in Christ here on earth. The larger truth is the bride of Christ's lives are turned into heavenly building material, into a great heavenly city that we call heaven - and as we live our lives in Christ those decisions for God's way, those victories and sacrifices, tears and prayers, are made into heavenly material.
 
The apostle describes the foundation walls having the names of the apostles written on them and decorated with all kinds of precious stones. How did the sacrifices of their lives get transformed into the foundation walls of the city? We don't know, but the Lord did say He was going to prepare a place for us.
 
Each of the 12 gates are named for a tribe of Israel. Paul told the Corinthians* their envy, strife and divisions were wood, hay, and stubble that would be burned up (though they would make it to heaven) and told them to build things on the foundation of Jesus Christ like gold, silver, and precious stones. *I Corinthians 3:3-15
 
Peter said we are living stones* being built up as a spiritual house as we offer spiritual sacrifices to God, and that Jesus is the Corner stone of the construction. *I Peter 2:5-6
Consider the angel told Cornelius* his giving and prayers were 'come up as a memorial before God' - a memorial is something solid placed as a reminder of an event or events worthy of remembering. David said* God put his tears in a bottle and wrote them in His book, and John sees* vials of incense in heaven which are the prayers of the saints. *Acts 10:4, Psalm 56:8, Revelation 5:8
 
Paul further stated* our lives are built upon the foundation of Jesus Christ and the apostles "in whom the whole building is growing up into a living temple for a place for God to live..." *Ephesians 2:19-22
 
He takes our tears, our sacrifices for Him, our victories over the lower elements of human nature, and turns those physical and soul-realm acts which are our lives, into spiritual material which is part of the building of the city we call heaven. Somehow the Father takes decisions in Him, acts of kindness and tears, and changes them into heavenly material. In the same way there is a link between the Father being light in the Spirit realm and physical light came from Him, there is also a link going the other way - the realms of our soul and this physical life are transformed into material in His realm.
 
Matter cannot be destroyed, and that includes light beams (photons)
One of the laws of the universe is that matter cannot be destroyed, it merely changes form. The body of Julius Caesar still exists in the form of dirt and minerals in the soil somewhere. The food you ate was digested to become part of you, and that which was waste has changed form yet exists in chemical form in the soil or was treated and flushed into the ground or a river or ocean...and on it goes.
 
Those leaves that fell from the trees that you burned last fall, changed into ash which becomes part of the soil. Much of it went flying into the air in tiny particles of smoke, around which water molecules formed to make clouds, that eventually rained onto land or sea...but they still exist.
 
And light - that flashlight beam you flashed into the night sky when you were a child, is still racing at the speed of light through the universe, diluted and absorbed by the rest of the light that is invisible to our eyes, having become part of the larger bright light that fills the universe. Technically speaking, the photons that made up that light beam are either absorbed and become part of what it hit when it hit something, or is reflected back into space...but those photons still exist in some form.
 
And that means the reflections of all the events of our lives still exist. When you skinned your knee on the sidewalk when you were a child, you saw that through the light of the day, and as such that light is still in existence, somewhere, scattered, absorbed in the universe, but still there. That's how spiritual light is and one reason we will be able to give account of our lives to the Lord - in His memory all things in Him still exist.
 
This gives us a clue to the fact He can save earth tears in a bottle in His realm and record the
anguish in His book. This is how He turns prayers and worship into heavenly incense. This is how giving money and prayers on earth come up as a memorial before Him in heaven. This is how your sacrifice, your victories, become living material by which He builds the city and adorns her as a bride on her wedding day.
 
He alone has the ability by spiritual laws we can only glimpse but not yet understand, to wipe away memories of past sin, past trauma, past life before we were in Christ. He only remembers what we've built on the foundation of Jesus Christ - it all continues to exist and will either survive the day as precious stones, gold, and silver, or as Paul told the strife filled Corinthians, some will be burned as wood, hay and stubble.
 
Let us be over-comers, choosing the more difficult path to walk in love, to forgive, to leave past lusts and childishness in favor of love, joy, peace, consistency, godliness, faithfulness, honesty, and the other godly character traits and fruit of the Spirit/spirit. Let us build gold, silver, precious stones as we remove the wood, hay and stubble of envy, strife, divisions and loving this world and the things in it.
 
Let us live our lives knowing when we choose to grow in Him, those decisions are turned into heavenly material which build up the heavenly city of light. I long for the day the city will be done, for each life who will grow in Christ will be complete, that the completed city may be adorned as a bride on her wedding! Christ is all in all! God is light, and in Him is no darkness at all, and we are now light. Let us live as people of light.
 
New subject next week, until then, blessings,
    John Fenn
www.cwowi.org and email me at cwowi@aol.com
 
 
 
New CD/MP3 Series
When Christian Friends Behave like Unbelievers
 
The Friendship Crisis, when Christian friends behave like unbelievers, details instructions in scripture on how to handle an offended friend, how to examine any part we played in their offense, our responsibility to them and the Lord, and their responsibility for mending the relationship. It also covers broken friendships and how to pray and act towards the once close friend, and how to determine if they were truly a friend in the first place. Topics include setting and violating boundaries between friends, one-sided friendships, the decision making process, and how to let a friend go with a clear conscience. Filled with insights, you'll be blessed!
Events
 
Let There be Light Fellowship
 
Osawatomie, KS
Saturday  October 1, 2016
(9:30am, 1:00)
 
Sunday, October 2, 2016
(9:00 am)
 
Contact CWOWI@aol.com for more information

Selasa, 13 September 2016

Take heed and beware!

Jesus warned His disciples:

"Take heed and beware of the leaven of the Pharisees and of the Sadducees" (Mt. 16:6).

Of course, they misunderstood this warning at first.

But eventually they understood what Jesus meant:

"Beware of the TEACHINGS of the Pharisees and of the Sadducees."

In a previous message I said that the Pharisees and Sadducees are alive and well in the Christian church.

They may go by other names, but it is the same spirit of religion that drives them.

I'm so glad that Jesus did NOT say, "Love them where they are and try to understand their viewpoint... their hearts are in the right place, and after all, they are trying to do the right thing."

That is the leaven of liberalism that even now has infected the whole loaf.

Take heed and beware of their teachings.

What are they?

In this week's webinar I'm going to cover who the Pharisees and Saducees are, as well as the main things they teach, so you can learn to recognize and avoid it when you hear it.

This will not only help you steer clear, but will also empower you to help others who may be infected by that leaven.

So join us this Friday for...

BEWARE THE LEAVEN
Friday, Sept. 16, 2016 @ 7:00 P.M. Eastern (New York Time Zone)

Go here to register for this live webinar:
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I am your brother,


Chip Brogden
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Zoe explains SASHET

What difference would it have made if your family growing up would have done this?
September 12, 2016




John is part of a five week Church 101 Course led by Kent Larson (LK10 Coordinator in Southern California).  The Course teaches two "rhythms of attention" as foundational for both family life and church life.  John has taught the first rhythm (Checking in with SASHET) to his family and his young daughter, Zoe, clearly "gets it".  (SASHET is an acronym for the six primary emotions:  Sad, Angry, Scared, Happy, Excited, Tender.)

Here are some questions to ponder...
  • What would it have meant if your family growing up had been a safe place for everyone to regularly name and value their emotions? What if your parents had modeled this for you?  What if they had made time and space for you and your siblings to do this?  What if everyone in your family had learned to listen deeply when people shared their emotions?  What if husbands and wives learned to share like this with one another?
  • What difference would it make if church were a place where people regularly connected on a heart level by "checking in with SASHET"?  How would this help us obey Romans 12:15?  "Rejoice with those who rejoice; weep with those who weep."  What kind of community would result from doing this over time?  What if churches became what John Eldredge calls "fellowships of the heart"?  (Note:  Checking in is not all there is to church but its a great starting place!)
  • What difference would it make if church was simple enough that children (like Zoe) could fully participate?
  • What if these rhythms were so simple that they could be self-propagating? Spreading from one family to another like a sort of benevolent virus?
  • What if this kind of heart level communication spread to every household in America?  (You don't live in the US?  We have powerful stories of these rhythms of attention changing lives and families in Germany, Uganda, Russia, France, Australia, Uruguay and Thailand.  So far.)
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